Well it's been awhile .... I was blogging semi-religiously for awhile and come to find out they weren't posting .. possibly a good thing.
The holidays have been seriously hard, people told me they would be but honestly I thought I could do it without crying daily ... yup I FAILED miserably. But that is ok. I will get through this on my own time and how I want too. One huge reason this has been so hard for me is on Christmas Eve, amidst our family get together, I got sick. Seriously sick. Ended up in the ER for most of the night and was miserable till the pain and nausea meds hit me. Yup, I'm the not-so-happy-about-it wonder of not one, or two but THREE kidney stones. One is small enough to pass but the other two are 2 & 3 centimeters big. Wayyy to big to big to pass. It was my first ER trip without Steven. :-( what made it worse was the nurse who triaged me asked if I was pregnant MULTIPLE times and I kept insisting there was absolutely no way I could be and of course she asked why not. Like that was her business why.. but I explained my husband passed away 6 months ago and this broad has the audacity to ask what happened ... I was livid. Not only was I sitting there in horrible pain but was trying to not puke all over her expensive tennis shoes and she's more curious as to how my husband died. I just don't get some people. So that was my holiday in a nut shell... fun right?
Well the presents and spending time with my family was really fun till I started feeling bad. So here's hoping everyone else had a Merry Christmas and will have a very Happy New Years!
I lost my Steven June 15,2013 to seizures and his heart just giving up. For 15+ years he battled with venous stasis after having a blood clot. . Now almost 5 month's after losing the love of my life, I am starting this blog as a journal of my travels through grief and life as a young widow. Please feel free to leave comments, thoughts and advice.
Saturday, December 28, 2013
Holidays... expect the unexpected
Tuesday, November 19, 2013
Butterflies and Jimmy Buffet
You might ask what they both have in common and in a simple word.... Signs. Signs that Steven is looking over me signs of encouragement from him. Its taken me 5 months to fully realize that's what these where. About 1 month after the day of his passing I turned on the radio and one of Jimmy Buffets song's was on the radio and I forced myself to listen to it. I cannot STAND some of the man's songs and, of course, Steven was big into his music so it was the least I could do to listen to it. After that day on my really bad 'force myself out of bed get dressed and make myself go to work' days I would always see butterflies .. not one or two but many all at once. Today,sadly, was one of the above mentioned days.. and let me tell you it was a doozy!! I cried and cried all day at the smallest things and it was just not turning out how I wanted it too... so on my way to work the exact same Jimmy buffet song came on and suddenly I was at peace. I smiles and ,surprisingly, sang along to the horrid song. I'm still not a fan of Buffet but from now on I'll always think of my wonderful loving husband by listening to Jimmy Buffet & searching for butterflies ....
Thursday, November 14, 2013
Emotions
Excuse my untogetherness ... it's been one of those hard weeks and I ramble a lot in this post
Emotions..... they play such a huge part in our day to day lives. Today was one of those dollar coaster emotional days for me.. I had a dream about Steven then when I woke up I was happy a little later furious and then just downright sad. The only reason I even cracked a smile today was because of some good work buddies cracking me up with their antics at work. I noticed that I keep my feelings mostly to myself.... when I'm around people I laugh and chat away but as soon as I know I'll be alone for awhile the sadness is back. Very very few times have I actually let the feelings come out in public. Not going to lie, if I did let my feelings out in front of people they'd think I was nuts. I have found that since Steve passed when I get agitated my tongue becomes quite loose and I let people know what I really think about them...and that's not always a good thing! So the past few days when I start feeling like I'm going to lose it, I walk into the kitchen, stand in front of the fridge and look at the picture my niece drew for me. she always reminds me that no matter what there are people who still love and care about me and that I need to keep calm and (her words) that it's ok to cry sometimes.
Sometimes you just need a child's logic to get yourself back on track....
Picture from Grief the unspoken
Sunday, November 3, 2013
Saturday, November 2, 2013
When they see you out with me
I don't blame them, goodness knows
My honeysuckle rose
And I know the reason why
You're much sweeter, goodness knows
You're my honeysuckle rose
You just have to touch my cup
You're my sugar
Its so sweet when you stir it up
And I know just why they do
You're much sweeter, goodness knows
You're my honeysuckle rose
When they see you out with me
You're much sweeter, goodness knows
You're my honeysuckle rose
And I know the reason why
You're much sweeter, goodness knows
You're my honeysuckle rose
You just have to touch my cup
You're my sugar
Its so sweet when you stir it up
And I know just why they do
You're much sweeter, goodness knows
You're my honeysuckle rose
You're much sweeter, goodness knows
My honeysuckle rose
XOXO to my Angel above